Fireworks 2018
A decision
It took me a couple weeks to tell my wife...that I was open to adoption again and what I felt was on my heart about trusting God.. When I did, I found out she wasn't ready or sure that was an option yet. We moved on with life and the subject didn't come up again until about 7 months later when she met me for lunch on my birthday. There's a lot that happens in 7 months...soccer for two of the kids, basketball, dance, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's...all four of the kids's birthdays. We finally celebrated our 20 year anniversary (from July) and took a small trip to Nashville that November.
Somehow the conversation came up and she told me "I'm ready". I was surprised to hear it all of a sudden. Ironically and coincidentally, we had one more payment left on our existing adoption loan. I had figured out the previous summer how to rearrange all of our finances once this moment came...but that plan didn't include another adoption at the time. Just thoughts of emergency savings, college funds, future weddings, and vehicles to pay for
It took me a couple weeks to tell my wife...that I was open to adoption again and what I felt was on my heart about trusting God.. When I did, I found out she wasn't ready or sure that was an option yet. We moved on with life and the subject didn't come up again until about 7 months later when she met me for lunch on my birthday. There's a lot that happens in 7 months...soccer for two of the kids, basketball, dance, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's...all four of the kids's birthdays. We finally celebrated our 20 year anniversary (from July) and took a small trip to Nashville that November.
Somehow the conversation came up and she told me "I'm ready". I was surprised to hear it all of a sudden. Ironically and coincidentally, we had one more payment left on our existing adoption loan. I had figured out the previous summer how to rearrange all of our finances once this moment came...but that plan didn't include another adoption at the time. Just thoughts of emergency savings, college funds, future weddings, and vehicles to pay for
Celebrating Lily's Gotchya Day in 2015
Trip to the Black Hills in 2016
A commitment
We went up for prayer a couple times at church. It was the second time that sealed it and we cemented the decision that evening. No more questions, we're ready and committed to moving forward. All that day I had been thinking about a "boy" somewhere in a care center. Whatever my fears, he needs a family and we can provide that for him. Who's going to rescue him? Whatever we do as a family, he can either be part of it or we can exclude him when he needs us.
You might be asking "what about the girls? Isn't there a greater need for girls?". Believe it or not, in the last few years, the need to adopt boys is about the same as girls or greater. That is a switch from when we first adopted because now most prefer or ask for girls when adopting.
We went up for prayer a couple times at church. It was the second time that sealed it and we cemented the decision that evening. No more questions, we're ready and committed to moving forward. All that day I had been thinking about a "boy" somewhere in a care center. Whatever my fears, he needs a family and we can provide that for him. Who's going to rescue him? Whatever we do as a family, he can either be part of it or we can exclude him when he needs us.
You might be asking "what about the girls? Isn't there a greater need for girls?". Believe it or not, in the last few years, the need to adopt boys is about the same as girls or greater. That is a switch from when we first adopted because now most prefer or ask for girls when adopting.
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